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Feb. 16th, 2006 @ 10:21 pm From the spoiled, skinchick-fetishizing brat who won't shut up.
Some days it just doesn't pay to turn on the computer.

Today I unified people on both sides of the culture wars who clicked onto my blogs (willingly, I might add, and with no prompting from me other than my usual comment-links and e-mail signature). An opponent to same-sex marriage said that I am "spoiled" and that it is my "sense of entitlement" that is making me push for special rights. This was prompted by the "pandas for my birthday" post. An "ally" asked, "What are you, ten?" Another so-called ally with a bad family history of her own basically wagged her virtual finger in my virtual face to tell me how lucky I am to have family willing to buy me anything because, after all, I'm queer, and then another s-s marriage opponent, who seemed shocked that some of us have families who care about us, said the same thing. As if I did not already mention that I feel incredibly blessed and lucky. As if I don't know it every day.

Also, I have a skinchick fetish because the love of my life shaves her head and everyone knows I have that thing for Sinead O'Connor, and of course there's something wrong with that. The two people who said that really needs to do a Google search--they'd shut the hell up if they did, at least once they recovered from their fit of the vapors. Boy, do they got it wrong. What I do have a thing for is skinny, doe-eyed women (you can blame all those Audrey Hepburn movies I watched with my mom for that--I credit Audrey myself), and they look good with short-short hair. My absolute fetish is for independent-minded people with a style of their own. When I met my wife, she had hair to her waist, and I was really upset when she first cut it off; I wanted her to try letting her hair grow when she found out it was coming in curly, too. But bald is beautiful on her, too, and that particular gift only begins with the box.

Also I am incredibly annoying according to a couple of vocal posters on a webforum I normally like. This coming from people who specialize in the kind of juvenile insults I thought I was leaving behind when I graduated middle school--and the thing is, these two overgrown Mertles are significantly older than I am! Sometimes age really does come alone, unaccompanied by wisdom. I bet they'd consider me just fascinating if I posted thread after thread of insults and constantly "corrected" people rather than trying to support others and posting news or cute pictures or weird and funny stories. The thing is, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I were like that. So I'll let the babies have their bottle, and log off if they get too obnoxious. I can always come back when the fun adults who seem to like me well enough are on.

Why do I bother? Oh yeah...cute pandas that I'll do whatever I can to support. And ranting when I need to. And cool people like you who'll say, "No, that's okay, they're idiots, we like you." :-D
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From:lupaloo
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:29 am (UTC)
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And cool people like you who'll say, "No, that's okay, they're idiots, we like you." :-D

Yay! She thinks I'm cool. :)

Really, I DO like you and they ARE idiots. I'm assuming that it was on that forum where I found you. I didn't see what happened. Want me to go send some nasty PM's? I've never done that.
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:32 am (UTC)
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Yeah, it's on that forum, and no, I don't need any nasty PMs sent for me or board wars started on my behalf. It's just that a couple of women who have some pull there and predated me have a hate-on for me and try to intimidate me into shutting the hell up even when I make other people laugh, even when I'm answering a question that I have knowledge about and someone else has asked. It happened again today too, with one of them, and seems to be an every-other-day thing. Just as I'm getting comfortable and having fun--it's like they scent it. *sigh*
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From:lupaloo
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:42 am (UTC)
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Yeah, I didn't figure you'd take me up on it. I'm not really a board war type either. I have a pretty low profile there so I haven't gotten into anything with anyone.

You know, I first found out about paganism years ago by offering support to a lesbian woman who was getting hassled on a homeschool email list. I emailed her privately and let her know that the people that were being jerks were in the minority and btw, what's pagan? :)
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From:lupaloo
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:30 am (UTC)
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p.s. I'm really glad you're here on lj too. I like having you on my friendslist.
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:32 am (UTC)
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Thanks! I like having you on my friendslist, too! :-)
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From:cissasghost
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:36 am (UTC)
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.. no, that's okay, they're idiots, we like you. ;)

Seriously, you're never going to please everybody, and if the people you're not pleasing are immature, annoying, self-centered and petty? You're probably doing pretty good.

-Sonya
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:45 am (UTC)
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I try to tell myself that, too. You would know as well as anybody. Thanks!
From:ironbutterfly08
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:38 am (UTC)
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*hugs*

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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:44 am (UTC)
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Hehehehehe!!!!

Aw, thank you for that picture! :-)
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From:queerbychoice
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:46 am (UTC)
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Someone needs to invent spray-on troll repellent and start selling it in drugstores worldwide. They'd make a fortune.

Sorry to hear they're picking on you today.
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:49 am (UTC)
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Everybody would get sprayed! :-) I'm smart enough and enough of an internet veteran to know that it happens; it's just that this particular day it happened *so much* about *so many* different things that I just felt bitten to death by ants, you know?

What was that you said about liking me because I can stay out of a board war? ;-)
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From:queerbychoice
Date:February 17th, 2006 04:12 am (UTC)
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Not so much that you can stay out of them, just that you're not the one who starts them. ;-)
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From:reannon
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:48 am (UTC)
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That's okay.
They're idiots.
We like you.
And we support you.
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:50 am (UTC)
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And I like your icon lots. *hug*
From:djpekky
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:59 am (UTC)
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I love you to annoy me. So don't shut up and keep "annoying" me. ;)

But seriously, there will always be those who be judgemental and read you wrong, and then criticize you in an unfair fashion at times. I learned this lesson the very hard way.

And people use the word "Fetish" nowadays as if everyone who has a fetish is commiting a crime, and won't see more than the appearance of the person. I have been accused of fetishizing. Well, I know I am not fetishizing my boyfriend because he has a mind and a personality that I would adore the same in a white guy, or a Latina girl or whatever. But hey, your attraction to a person has to start somewhere. :)

Of course... I also have a fetish for very intelligent people who can speak their minds in a diplomatic way. I have a fetish for artistic souls... But unfortunately, I seem to have a fetish for arrogant people too (my last big crush was on a former female LJ friend who was just as arrogant as many of the guys I fell for in the past...

Anyway, you keep being yourself and speak your mind as you see fit. If others don't like it, it's their loss.

Peace!

Pekky
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 04:21 am (UTC)
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I think the word "fetish" is way overused. It's not a "fetish" if you happen to just like a particular trait on certain people.

I can understand the grief you get. People who use those words for cross-cultural relationships are betraying their own prejudices.

Thank you so very much. *hug*
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From:rainbow_goddess
Date:February 17th, 2006 07:27 am (UTC)
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I think there are some very attractive shaved-headed women, including Sinead O'Connor and the late Persis Khambatta (from Star Trek: the Motion Picture.)

What's wrong with loving bald women? For that matter, what's wrong with loving anyone?

They're idiots, and I like you. :-)
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 03:01 pm (UTC)
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I don't see anything particularly wrong with it, either, but I've gotten that accusation before. K laughed at it, though, and said she clearly had a long-hair-and-bangs fetish, in that case, because I never change that basic hairstyle much. I just think she's the most fascinating woman I've met at any hair length.

This morning, she was feeling so excitable and exuberant, she danced all around the house, dancing on the couch and coffee table and doing backflips off the chair, I got concerned (she has several Friday classes) and told her she needed to pace herself. But I thought she looked so cute and happy, too! Maybe I have a Mexican jumping bean fetish, too. :-)

Thank you so much. I like you, too. :-)

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From:fluttergrrl30
Date:February 17th, 2006 12:27 pm (UTC)
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I'll try to write later about the rest of the ignorance you encountered yesterday, but I have a minute to post before I take the kids to school, and I wanted to say *something*.

For the record, I found your request for panda sponsorship to be both sweet - 'cause who doesn't love the furry cuteness?? - and philanthropic! It's generally a given that someone, somewhere is going to do something for your birthday, n o matter how small. Telling people you'd love for that small thing to be a donation to one of the many fine zoos in our country who are paying exhorbitant fees so that we all may enjoy pandas in our country - or any other animal, for that matter - struck me as both generous and mature. It's not unlike requesting donations to pet causes in lieu of flowers at a funeral, but you are still around to enjoy the gifts people send in your name.

I thought it was a truly excellent idea, and a typically thoughtful one, coming from you.

And, happy birthday.
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 02:55 pm (UTC)
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It's not unlike requesting donations to pet causes in lieu of flowers at a funeral, but you are still around to enjoy the gifts people send in your name.

Can I say I just love this sentence? This idea? :-)

Apparently it's not normal to some people for adults to celebrate birthdays or make any kind of fuss over them. This morning, having been properly cheered up, I just think someone oughta bake them some cupcakes when their next birthday rolls around. Might improve their disposition.

Thank you so much for taking the time. *hug*
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 02:39 pm (UTC)
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Apparently it is asking an awful lot of the world to want legal recognition of my marriage and the tools my wife and I need to care for each other the way we need to. (The tools we would get without question if one of us were male.) So it must be because I'm "spoiled" (which I happily acknowledge; I wasn't always) that I expect such an unreasonable thing.
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From:krisw
Date:February 17th, 2006 04:47 pm (UTC)
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I can only repeat a sentiment I've had a billion times before... people are morons.

But pandas are good. Pandas don't care who anyone wants to marry, eh?
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From:princesswitch
Date:February 17th, 2006 04:52 pm (UTC)
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Pandas don't even seem to take that much of an interest in their own sex lives! :-)

They're cute and funny, too.

Thank you. *hug*
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From:krisw
Date:February 17th, 2006 04:55 pm (UTC)
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Pandas know there are better things to worry about, like bamboo!

*hugsback*
From:jewels42
Date:February 18th, 2006 12:33 am (UTC)
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I love you too. It's o.k.. that "forum" can get a little pesty. You just keep your cool.

You're good with us.
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From:pinkpolarity
Date:March 16th, 2006 01:01 pm (UTC)
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Hey Jayelle! I used to be on your Beyond Fear list (I was going by Fireshade those days, I think), and I just stumbled over your LJ. We've got a lot of interests in common (I've really gotten into rap music, for one thing), and your posts are really interesting, even if we're on opposite political sides. Would you mind if I friended you?
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From:princesswitch
Date:March 17th, 2006 02:12 am (UTC)
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Not in the slightest. :-)